Socialization – Getting Closer to Your Son

Why the Differences? Here’s one reason

How many times have we heard the lament, “But he never talks about his feelings.” And in many ways this lament is the

When your son slams his books on the counter and heads to his room

13 year old Jimmy came home and slammed his books down on the counter. Mom asked him what was up and he marched directly to his room and slammed

BIG BOYS DON’T CRY – and the good reasons for it

The first reason is that when boys go through puberty and get elevated testosterone levels their access to their emotional tears goes down. Basically, when boys are 12 they lose some of their connection

Excerpt – Boys Healing Through Creativity

“The following is an excerpt from the section on how boys heal. This excerpt focuses on healing through creative action. Excerpt: Helping Mothers be Closer to Their Sons, page 53-54 I once worked with a young man whose girlfriend was killed in a car accident. The young man was distraught and crushed by her death.…

Excerpt – Precarious Manhood – A boy needs to prove his worth

“This excerpt is from the section on “precarious manhood” that describes the latest research on the concept of manhood and how it is a moving goalpost that impacts boys and men. Excerpt from page 28, Helping Mothers be Closer to Their Sons “When girls successfully go through puberty they are nearly always…

Excerpt – Teaching Boys About Feelings – Tips from a child therapist

The following is an excerpt from the section on teaching boys about emotions and focuses on helping him use his body to track his emotions. Excerpt: Helping Mothers be Closer to Their Sons, page 90 “The other thing you can do to help is to get him to connect his bodily experience with the emotion.…

Finding a Boys Safe Place

A mom came to see me for therapy worried about her 12 year old son. Since her husband’s death her son played basketball. Lots of basketball. Morning, noon and night! When she would try to sit down with him and talk about his father’s death he would clam up and shut down. He didn’t…