Why the Differences?  Here’s one reason

How many times have we heard the lament, “But he never talks about his feelings.” And in many ways this lament is the

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Why No Tears?

Jason had experienced the death of his 16 year old best friend to suicide two months prior. His parents were worried about him. They hadn’t

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Striving for Status

“My son wants to win. Nearly all the time. When he doesn’t he gets upset. He won’t quit playing his video game until he reaches level 22. Food, rest, drink, nothing stops him.”

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BIG BOYS DON’T CRY – and the good reasons for it

The first reason is that when boys go through puberty and get elevated testosterone levels their access to their emotional tears goes down. Basically, when boys are 12 they lose some of their connection

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Excerpt – Boys Healing Through Creativity

“The following is an excerpt from the section on how boys heal. This excerpt focuses on healing through creative action. Excerpt: Helping Mothers be Closer to Their Sons, page 53-54 I once worked with a young man whose girlfriend was killed in a car accident. The young man was distraught and crushed by her death.…

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Excerpt – Testosterone Impacts Boys? – It ain’t what you think

Testosterone Research techniques have improved and are showing us some new sides of the hormone testosterone. This excerpt is part of the section that talks about some of those discoveries. Excerpt: Helping Mothers be Closer to Their Sons, page 13-14 “For many years scientists have tried to solidify a connection between testosterone and aggression but…

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Finding a Boys Safe Place

  A mom came to see me for therapy worried about her 12 year old son. Since her husband’s death her son played basketball. Lots of basketball. Morning, noon and night!  When she would try to sit down with him and talk about his father’s death he would clam up and shut down.  He didn’t…

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